It only took a few hours into the month of February before I really, really regretted not allowing myself some iced coffee on my list of rules. Though I keep reminding myself that every dollar adds up, and I could be no better off at the end of the month if I allowed myself to buy all the iced coffee I really want– that only helps so much.
I’m freaking out a bit. So what I will be doing to combat this is the same thing that I did this summer when I was topping out at about 2.5 large iced coffees per day. That’s almost 96 ounces of liquid, and almost ten dollars per day. I bought a plastic pitcher at the Ocean State Job Lot, and started making iced coffee at home.
The only problem with this is that part of the joy of getting the iced coffee is breaking up my day a little when I’m away from home. I can really only enjoy homemade iced coffee either at home, or immediately after leaving it.
Also, as I suspected, I keep thinking of things I’ve been meaning to buy for a while that I haven’t gotten around to, but now will have to wait until March, if I am to follow my owns rules and be a success. Then I tell myself that this experiment is my own, and I can amend things if I need to; then I remind myself that I would feel filthy failing and that that feeling is filthy is simply not worth it; finally, I assure myself that it’s hardest right now because this is a new way of doing things, and I’m very aware of it.
I never thought it would be easy.
So far I’ve done well with free adventures:
- I got to go to the theatre for free because I know the right people, and I got free delicious food and drink while there.
- I’ve tried to trick my friends into “sponsoring” me for an event I’d like to attend, but apparently they don’t like me enough to pony up the cash– which is fine, cause that would make me feel a bit filthy anyway.
- I had a water at Trinity Brewhouse (where the beer is so very good), and excused myself early to avoid temptation.
So far I’m also alienating my friends:
- Jewish Friend is trying to be supportive of this whole adventure even though when I first announced it, she said: “I don’t even want to talk to you about that.”
- Joe Roch added after I declined an invitation to see He’s Just Not That Into You: “You can’t even buy a movie ticket? I don’t understand this no buy thing. It seems utterly un-American and, more importantly, un-me. For instance, Andria: if you suddenly got a really bad sinus infection and NEEDED antibiotics, you wouldn’t buy them? LUNACY! Also, if you saw a really cute pair of shoes and wanted them, you wouldn’t?! MORE LUNACY!”
- And after paying for both movie rental and beer, Gentleman Caller expressed disdain with having to finance all our fun by himself instead of our usual, fairer, halfsies.
This is all kind of reminding me of the time right before I moved from Fargo, when I was hoarding as much cash as possible and working ridiculous hours among three different jobs. Because I was saving, I didn’t go out much– also, I was tired, and friends (mostly Heidi), freaked out on me for never being available.
I should be, and am, glad that people want to spend time with me, but that makes this frugality thing awfully challenging. Perhaps, friends, we could spend time making crafts out of found items, or sitting down with a nice glass of water?


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February 7, 2009 at 6:46 pm
Heidi
holla
February 7, 2009 at 7:12 pm
Krista
I so enjoy reading these blogs! I know what it feels like when you want to buy a coffee away from home. I would do it daily if I could afford it!
February 7, 2009 at 7:41 pm
Culture Friend
I crashed and burned last night with my no-buy month initiative. It kind of made me a little upset with myself, so I am back on the wagon today though. Especially after paying the bills.
February 7, 2009 at 7:43 pm
Culture Friend
And on another note, I would be glad to partake in water filled craft or movies from the library nights with you. If you came here, I’d even cook us dinner.
February 7, 2009 at 8:31 pm
danie
I’m feeling your pain. I really want to see Coraline. I tend to bring my own popcorn anyway, but I’m not going to do it.
If you don’t have Netflix, you can’t really get it now but you should consider it in the future. It may seem like an extra expense, but it was cheaper (for us) than rentals.
Maybe invite people over for game night? You don’t want to splurge on a friend filled fancy dinner March first, so you shouldn’t be a hermit.
I’m planning to see the San Francisco sights in my no-spending time and exercise a lot.
And just yesterday I heard Suze Orman say every penny should be going to savings. She’s apparently equally un-American.
February 7, 2009 at 8:48 pm
Jennifer
My no-buy month has been going ok so far, but that is partially because my new job has me too busy to spend money.
The hardest thing about the month for me is making sure that I have enough food and drink to last me until I can get home – no easy feat when you are commuting and at work 12+ hours a day. I’ve been packing scores of little rubbermaid containers full of various meals and snacks, but have taken to carrying small stray apples in my pockets . . . just in case.
At least this means I don’t have to buy any valentine’s day gifts/flowers/cards!
February 9, 2009 at 7:04 pm
Meredith
I’m sure you’ve already thought of this but I keep a lose-change jar for those months when I’ll be squeaking by – and then I raid it for Sunday morning coffee and/or laundry when necessary. Also, even when I’m at my most frugal, there’s something nice about looking at a pot of money and thinking “now, if I were really desperate, I could cash in all those pennies and have a mocha!”
Also – check craigslist for free tics to stuff. My friend Rachel and I scored free Lacrosse tickets this past weekend. It’s not something I would’ve ever done without the free tics and it turned out to be awesome. There’s so much violence in lacrosse!